I would say, the yardstick one sets should not be to feel secure, but to be able to overcome insecurity(if it is PRESENT) or atleast EvolvE. She wanted to be BEK, and Jalal gave her that title.She wanted to be Khaas and she remained so. Many would say that her vulnerability / instabilty / fragility / insecurity, has it's roots in her bachpan years, as she lost everything in her childhood., though i differ here, 'Coz she has BEEN Jalal's WIFE and a Queen for the last 11 years, and hence was EXPECTED to shrug off any such rickety-ness, because all these years Jalal was present with her.She said she RULED the Harem all these years, then where is the insecurity. One can analyze this by keeping many dimensions in our mind. Her diffidence, her fears, her anxiety, have taken a toll on many of her personal qualities which she HAD EARLIER, and now have disappeared. But, as she remains in her OWN world of "Bachpan Ki Dosti", this clause has categorically DEPLETED Ruqayya, and disallowed her to develop her relation with Jalal. Jalal has changed a lot but the same SHOULD also have occured with Ruqayya also. And when she faces reality, then will feel let down and cause them agony, by going the wrong way in the future,(For Sure.!.) as this is a normal personality attribute, and this only differs in magnitude from person to person depending on the LEVEL of insecurity and the degree upto which they can manipulate their fears from overtaking their inner conscience, and here Ruqayya seems very weak. Her insecurity is nothing BUT a difference in her level of awareness, regarding Jalal.(though she says she understands HIM, and she is his Bachpan ki Dost.!!.)ĭeep in her heart of hearts (if she has one.?.), she knows that "truth" about Jalal(that his DIL is functional and beats for Jodha) but she refuses to acknowledge it as she fears that the present 'gala' time will last for a few days only. Because, since starting ALL she cared was her BEK Auhda, the power, and Jalal ALWAYS assured her that her Auhda would remain INTACT.In her 10 years of marriage, didn't she understand the meaning of THE WORD of Jalal.?. She is at times uncertain and lacks confidence in discovering and feeling her own value(.?.!.?.!.), and one or more of her capabilities, lacks trust in herself and NOW even in Jalal. If Beagle was instrumental in leading to the Darwinism, then here Ruqayya's inability to tackle the "evolution" in Jalal OR to Evolve herself, is the mirror view of why she is - what she is at present, i mean 'insecure.?. I would attribute these changes in her NOT ONLY due to the "INSECURITY", BUT ALSO due to the reason that she Ceased to "EvOLvE". She DID NOT change overnight but took some time. I view her in two phases - Pre JJ marriage and Post JJ marriage. Lets try to see the Change in Ruqayya Begum, and analyze how she will do in future. I am using some contents of an Old Post of mine today, here, i think 99% members must not have read this one. Nice Post.I agree with you.And trying to elaborate your points.